Whose Line Is It Anyway?

 Can you think of a time when you have been physically or verbally disrespected by the opposite gender? I know I can. Here's one example of many: I live in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania where men, guys, and behaviorally boys will attempt to approach me or any female for that matter. Mostly if you reject him he will ask to be your friend and by friend, actually I'm not quite sure of what he means, but it's not the traditional term of 'friends'. In other cases of rejection, he will lash out. For example, this guy that attempted to talk to me got rejected, but he wouldn't listen. I told him I had to go and he wouldn't leave me alone. At this point my mom did not want me to have anything to do with him because he wasn't doing anything with his life. Lastly, he wouldn't stop touching me and coming closer. When he was talking to me he kept grabbing my butt and even after I told him to stop he would not. This is not the only instance that a situation like this has happened. The use of objectification, verbal or physical, has always been too casual. With that being said, why do some victims never speak up? About half the people that are physically or verbally abused never speak up. This goes for everything ranging from rape to mental abuse. When no one speaks up it only gets worst because the abuser thinks that you welcome it and that they have the right to do whatever they want. Many females and males have experienced something like this, but when did the lines get blurred? Was it really my line to begin with? Was it his line to cross? Whose line is it anyway?   

  

Alpha

    It is common to have males attempt to assert their dominance
in packs. Within these packs the responsibility of their actions are diffused
as compared to being dominant solo. Most commonly, males attempt to assert
their dominance by sexually disrespecting women. By this I mean dog calls,
inappropriate touching or grabbing, and at worst rape and murder. Males allow
this behavior to continue to assert dominance and being the alpha of the pack-
like dogs- and for what?

  Still men are not the only gender that competes for the title of
alpha dog. Women compete with one another but much more subtly. There are two
ways that women can become alpha dog and sad enough their title depends on the
reactions of the opposite sex. The first way females can assert dominance is to
stay quiet with the treatment males distribute. If a female is to display her
disdain for a male's behavior she is now 'stuck- up'. The second way a female
can assert her dominance is to embrace her sexuality as a type of tool. When
females do this they contribute into many manmade stereotypes. Namely, women
are here to please men, but they also gain the approval of men because of such.
How many posters of female rights advocates’ do you see hanging up in an all
male environment? That's right: None.
  Maybe this adoption of dominance rules can be summed up as:
These rules have been around for so long no one can change them. Maybe it is
also as simple as: No one wants to change them. At the end of the day all we
can do is guess because tomorrow these sad cycles of male and female dominance
will still exist.

All Woman

  What exactly does it mean to be a woman? Whatever it means I'm sure that I'm not there, but I can't help but wonder what or if there is a universal definition of 'woman'. Of course I don't mean bilologically or antomacally; I mean culturally. In Asia, women are culturally depicted as petite, slender, and of a general Asian look. In Africa, depending the the locale, the ideal woman is depicted as darker toned, tall, and slender. In America, the stereotype of the ideal woman is blonde hair, blue eyes, fair toned. How can that be true when America is a mix of every culture? The answer is it's not. That may be some people's opinions, but how do you explain a Black woman's curves or an Asian women's eye's? No one culture is more womanly than another. Lacking or having a certain characteristic does not take away from your womanly persona. If anything, once you embrace and accept that this feature represents not only you, but your background you should be all the more proud and therefore womanly.

Freaks

  In the black community, the word 'freak' is used very colloquially. In
general conversation it means a very sexual expressive person. This word is
more so used to describe black females. Yet if we really look at the deep
rooted connotations of this word it was not meant to be a compliment. Back in the
17th to 19th centuries the term freak was attached to actual freak shows. These
freaks shows consisted of anything from bearded women to midgets. In
continuing that definition, after slavery black women had no rights and there
was no equality. Now people find loud outbursts of racism to be quite rare. But
that does not mean racism is gone because a new racism exists. This racism is
silent. This racism argues that there is no racism so laws to protect, help,
and possibly further black women are rejected. In this new racism, black women
are portrayed as bad mothers, welfare queens, and baby machines; hitherto a
modern day freak. These stereotypes are used to portray how freakish black
women are of the American dream. They do not have a husband, a home, and a
career. These women are unwed, have no husband, and are on welfare. They are
deviant of the American dream. The term freak is redefined by blacks to try to
take back control over their attitudes. Freaks used to refer to black women in
the sense that they were also sexually promiscuous and baby machines. Yet with
that knowledge, blacks have contorted the word freak to congratulate ones
sexual expressiveness. Honestly, it's not the worst thing you can call a black
person, but we won't go there, yet. Is it a compliment or is it a slur? It
depends on your disposition, but personally I would rather be called
intelligent.

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